Dear Abby: Hubby not convinced he causes wife’s migraines

Dear Abby I began experiencing migraines occasionally as a teenager but in my early s they became a regular occurrence I tried unsuccessfully for years to identify my triggers cutting things from my diet and climate before realizing about a year ago that I m triggered by smoke My husband my best friend and the love of my life who I ve been with since the age of is a smoker I ve attempted to talk to him about it but he becomes hurt and defensive because he s sensitive about his addiction and isn t sure my theory is correct He has invariably been careful not to smoke in our home or cars only outside but I smell it on his hands and clothing even hours after a cigarette Further complicating the matter is that he has never had a sense of smell and isn t convinced that an odor lingers on him We have a beautiful affectionate marriage and almost never fight However I m realizing I have a slow-growing resentment that is fed each time he sits next to me or I want to snuggle up with him only to be hit with a sensation best described as an ice pick to my temple I m devastated that this is affecting my nearly perfect image of this wonderful man I have thus far been unwilling to nag or demand he stop as this isn t the type of wife I want to be He has a great number of amazing qualities and I feel horrible that my heart is pulling back because of this one thing Please help with what to do Hurting Head in Ohio Dear Hurting Head The first thing you should do is discuss your migraines with your expert to be sure that the smell of tobacco is what is triggering them If what you think is true then you and your husband should schedule a consultation with your physician so the MEDICAL EXPERT can explain it to your wonderful spouse There is no denying that cigarette smoke clings to the hair skin and clothing of a regular smoker long after the last puff On the positive side this may be a perfect opportunity for your husband to rid himself of an expensive habit that s potentially dangerous to his fitness Dear Abby My best friend Ellie has a jealousy issue She craved to introduce me to another lady Mica who was starting a new craft and looking for help to get started Ellie gave my phone number to Mica who contacted me and came to my house for instructions I explained Ellie that Mica had called and that we d set up a time for Mica to come over When Ellie heard that she got really upset because she longed to introduce us Now if I mention Mica s name my best friend shuts down Abby I m not sure how to handle jealousy It s not an emotion I feel Please help Good Intentions in Arkansas Dear Good Intentions Shuts down Because you met with Mica without Ellie being present That seems not only childish but also controlling Handle this by refraining from mentioning Mica s name to Ellie Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA